Teen Dating

Dating violence isn't an argument every once in a while or a bad mood after a bad day. Dating violence (or relationship violence) is a pattern of violent behavior that someone uses against a girlfriend or boyfriend. Abuse can cause injury and even death, but it doesn't have to be physical. It can include verbal and emotional abuse--constant insults, isolation from friends and family, name calling, controlling what someone wears--and it can also include sexual abuse. It can happen to anyone, at any age, regardless of race, religion, level of education, or economic background. Dating violence also occurs in same-sex relationships.

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Did you know? - Statistics on teen dating violence
Safety in an abusive relationship
Safety when leaving an abusive relationship
What can you do? How to help a friend

Did You Know...

Physical and sexual abuse against adolescent girls in dating relationships increases the likelihood that the girl will abuse drugs and/or alcohol, develop an eating disorder, consider and/or attempt suicide, engage in risky sexual behavior, and/or become pregnant.

1 in 3 teenagers experiences physical violence in their dating relationships.

Hitting your girlfriend or boyfriend is a crime; just like robbery or rape--it's against the law.

40% of teenage girls ages 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.

Violent relationships begin at an average age of 15.

Safety in an abusive relationship
If there is an argument in a residential environment, try to be in a place that has an exit and stay out of the bathroom, kitchen, or rooms that may contain weapons.

Know where exits are (at school, home, his house, etc.). Identify which doors, windows, elevator, or stairwell to use.

Identify one or more safe people who will call the police if you need help.

Devise a code word or sign to use with family, friends, teachers, and neighbors when you need them to call 911 for help from the police.

Safety when leaving an abusive relationship
Keep Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support's 24-hour hotline number 214.946.HELP (4357) and some change or a calling card with you for emergency phone calls.

Change all social media passwords. Block partner’s ability to post to social media websites.

Change cell phone number.

Identify a friend at school whom you will inform of your situation. Inform the school security if applicable. You may also want to
provide them with a picture of your partner in the instance he harasses you at school.

If you are at the same school, can you change class times, schedules, or routes to class? Can you have lunch at a different time?

Let the principal, counselors, teachers, nurse, and friends know. The more people who are watching out for you, the safer you are.

Have someone walk with you to your car and to classes. Ride to school with a friend or family member. 

Minimize your time spent alone following this break up.

Lock your windows and change locks on your doors as soon as possible after discussing with your family.

Develop a safety plan with your family for when you are not with them.

Inform neighbors that you are no longer dating your partner, and ask them to call the police if they see him near your home.

What Can You Do?

Helping Your Friends...

DO:  Help your friends. Make sure they know they are not alone.
DO:  Listen without judging. They may feel responsible, ashamed, inadequate, and afraid.
DO:  Tell them that it is NOT their fault.
DO:  Suggest they develop a safety plan. They need to know a safe place to run to, a support number to call, and who they can trust in an emergency.
DO:  Help them identify resources. Encourage them to take care of themselves, get emotional support, and build their self-esteem.
DO:  Encourage them to call for help. Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support has counseling and safety planning for teens in abusive dating relationships. Let your friends know there are people who can help.

Quick Facts about Teen Dating Violence

Test Your Relationship
Dating Violence Quiz

Does Your Partner...
  • Embarrass you with bad names and put-downs?
  • Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
  • Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?
  • Stop you from seeing or talking to friends or family?
  • Take your money, make you ask for money, or refuse to give you money?
  • Make all the decisions?
  • Tell you you're a bad person?
  • Act like the abuse is no big deal, it's your fault, or even deny doing it?
  • Destroy your property or threaten to hurt your pets?
  • Intimidate you with weapons?
  • Shove you, slap you, or hit you?
  • Force or coerce you to have sex?
  • Threaten to break up with you?
  • Threaten to hurt you?

If you answered YES to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive dating relationship. 
If you need to talk, call us.

24-Hour Hotline 
(214) 946-HELP(4357)
Support is free and confidential.

Genesis Women's Shelter & Support

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Dallas, Texas 75219
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